The 5 hardest things about the first year of marriage

Getting married to your one true love is truly blissful. But don’t be fooled into thinking marriage is only about love.

Most newlywed couples have no idea what the first year of marriage awaits them.

With love, there will be arguments, hardships and challenges that couples will have to navigate through, together.

It’s not just about putting the ring, it’s about handling the marriage in a healthy and positive way. And there’s no doubt that the 1st year of marriage is the hardest.

Hence, here are some things that newlywed couples find the hardest in the marriage, especially during the 1st year.

1. A change of identity
When you get married, you become this new person and your identity changes to someone’s wife/husband or someone’s daughter/son-in-law. At this point, having no idea about who you are is quite natural. Before marriage, you had a deep connection to yourself and your paternal home, but now that new people are in the picture, it becomes difficult to assume who you are. But that’s when your spouse steps in, to help you find yourself again.

2. Linking fears with future
You will notice that your fears have found a new ground of their own. You will unintentionally link your fears to future instances regarding you and your partner’s decisions and opinions. Fears such as, “we are spending so much money right now, how will we save when we have a kid together?” may come to your mind but you will have to communicate your fears with your spouse in a clear way.

3. Handling finances
Believe it or not, handling finances becomes difficult when you and your partner consider joining your bank accounts for future savings. Before marriage, you were used to handling your money alone but now, with another person in tow, it becomes hard enough to accommodate their financial habits. Compromising and doing things in an organised way can generally solve this issue.

4. Juggling two families together
As if, one family wasn’t enough, you now would have to handle two! Getting married means you will have a new family that you also have to think and care for. Your decisions will also involve both the families. But the hardest part of this is, that you have to give equal time to both the families.

5. There’s no ME anymore
It’s not just you anymore, but it’s we. Your partner is there with you for life, and now, you can’t make decisions without considering your partner. You will initially lose track of your life before- your friends, social life, parties etc. But again, with time, you will also be able to adapt to the new married life where you can still keep your individuality despite being married. Just remember, you have to move forward in life, along with your partner.