Jealousy in its mildest form could be normal and acceptable.
If it provokes you to communicate to draw boundaries as a couple and negotiate a mutually nurturing and supportive relationship, there is nothing wrong with it.
In the below instances you might feel insignificant and jealous. At such times it’s important to communicate the need for a mutually nurturing and loving relationship.
Here’s a list of them below:
1. If your partner’s ex keeps in touch with your partner as a ‘friend’ but demands excessive attention while ignoring and disregarding you and your presence as his partner in his life.
2. If your partner spends excessive time socialising alone with people without you and insists on such individual fun more often than not.
3. If your partner ignores you while socialising as a couple but gives excessive attention to others.
4. If your partner is quick to appreciate others in elaborate ways but is either criticising you or rarely acknowledges you.
5. If well-meaning advice from you and constructive feedback is ignored, while at the same time, the same advice from certain others is keenly and attentively listened to.
6. If birthdays and special occasions of certain others are remembered and celebrated with gusto, while special occasions with you are ignored or grudgingly celebrated.
7. If certain others are highlighted and praised excessively to you, while there is nothing praiseworthy mentioned about you to you. You are, in fact, compared with them as not being or doing ‘enough’.
8. If through words and actions your partner demonstrates on an ongoing basis that certain others are dearer to him than you in every way – and if he had to choose he would always choose them over you.
