Heidi O’Ferrall, ProJared’s wife has announced that YouTube gamer ProJared aka Jared Knabenbauer cheated on her with mistress Holly Conrad.
Heidi O’Ferrall, ProJared and Holly Conrad
This is happening after ProJared tweeted that he and Heidi O’Ferrall were filing for divorce despite his efforts to make his marriage with Heidi O’Ferrall work, an allegation Heidi O’Ferrall denies.
Heidi O’Ferrall says she has proof that her husband ProJared has been sleeping with HollyConrad, cheating on her with Holly Conrad behind her back for months.
Heidi O’Ferrall also said ProJared blocked her on Twitter.
Read ProJared Jared Knabenbauer’s divorce statement:
Read Heidi O’Ferrall, ProJared wife cheating statement:
Read Heidi O’Ferrall’s tweets below:
I recently learned that my husband ProJared has been f**king HollyConrad behind my back for months. I have no idea what announcement he just made because he blocked me.
I have proof. Explicit conversations and photographs of their relationship, which he extensively lied to me about on many occasions. He was promising me that he was committed to our relationship at the time, and promising her he was breaking up with me.
He went so far as to blame me for being suspicious and making him “feel like a bad person” by questioning his loyalty. He gaslit me for months, insisting that he had “the bare minimum interactions” with her and “didn’t even like her”. Meanwhile, THEY WERE HAVING SEX
Jared tried very, very hard to make me feel responsible for everything that’s gone wrong in our relationship. He technically broke up with me in February, insisting that the only thing wrong with our marriage was me. Insisting that HE had tried to make things work.
He was unable to confess to his infidelity even when presented with proof. He squirmed in denial until the last minute, getting angry and defensive instead of apologetic. I believe he has compartmentalized his feelings/memories to suppress his guilt. He’s VERY convincing.
I have spent the last year in near isolation, ostracized from Jared’s friend group because he made it clear to me that I was not welcome around them even when we were “still together”. He had to keep me separate to keep up his lies.
He told his friends a version of events that omits his infidelity and portrays me as an aggressive and unreasonable person. As though I’m randomly angry and upset all the time, for no reason at all.
It’s because he’s abusing me.
His statement is nothing more than an attempt to silence me before I can reveal anything. I gave him the opportunity to make a statement about his infidelity before I did. I told him it would be less embarrassing for him if he was honest with his own friends first.
He declined.
Honestly @HollyConrad you look very ashamed and insecure in all the nudes you sent my husband. I think it would help your chronic self esteem issues if you started fucking men that weren’t already married.
Reading the explicit messages between my husband and his mistress is an experience I would not wish on anyone. I basically discovered that they’ve been hooking up on all their work trips since last fall, and meeting together secretly since she moved here.
Jared and Holly know the truth. Convincing the rest of the internet isn’t important to me. After losing the “love of my life” in such a brutal betrayal, I don’t feel vulnerable to the opinions of strangers in the same way anymore.
I’m honestly shocked that he posted this today because it’s so blatantly selfish. This isn’t a mutual statement in any way. I did tell him that I wouldn’t sign an NDA regarding his behavior. I’ve suffered enough to sell him my dignity too
I don’t expect fans to take up pitchforks for me. To most of you he’s just a funny internet guy and it’s not relevant if he cheated on his wife. Whatever, okay.
I needed to get this off my chest because I’ve been living in a private hell for the last year. Wondering if I’m going crazy because the person I loved told me that the obvious wasn’t true, that I’m paranoid and wrong.
I’m not holding my tongue for his benefit anymore.
I truly believed Jared was better than this, and he proved me wrong. I told him over and over that I had faith in his integrity, and he stood there and took the compliment and said nothing.
While cheating on me.
The proof I found was on his old phone, dating from October to December of last year (until he got a new phone) Everything from sexual images to detailed descriptions of times they’ve met for sex.
The depth of his capacity for deception honestly disturbs me more than the actual cheating. I didn’t believe he was capable of lying like this. I had utmost faith in his moral compass and good judgement.
He proved me wrong.
It’s also true that he has been soliciting nudes from his fans for years. I was there. In the beginning, it was a joke on tumblr. Then it was its own tumblr account just for nudes. It was ostensibly a body-positive space for consenting adults, and I approved on that basis.
It kept escalating secretly. He started a Snapchat, for getting nudes from fans, without telling me. I found out via a fan comment. I felt pressured to allow it even though I was uncomfortable.
Anytime I gave him an inch, he took a mile.
I believed that he shut it down in late 2017 (I think???) But now I have reson to believe it continued for long after that. If you have information or were involved in this, I would like to know what really happened. I know a lot of fans participated.
For the record, I’m not mad at any fans for sending him raunchy images. Jared was the one who was responsible for being honest with me, which he failed to do. No one else is to blame, IMO
I used to think that among consenting adults, it was fine. Now I see it as an abuse of power for him to intentionally manipulate anyone to show him their naked body on the basis that he’s a popular internet man.
I would like to apologize for my role in enabling this.
I was planning to be a lot more civil in my announcement, but then Jared blindsided me with his bullshit vague statement pretending that our relationship ended for any reason besides his extensive infidelity.
I’m aware that Jared believes, and had told many people, that I’m abusing him. That’s his justification for cheating on me. But the logic is flawed because even if I AM the worst person in the world, it’s still his responsibility to break up with me instead of banging other girls
That said, I begged to know what I was doing that hurt him, so I could fix it. He could never give me actionable feedback. He couldn’t point to any of my current behaviors that needed to change. I spent every day desperate to please him while he gave me the silent treatment.
He had absolute financial and social control over me. I have been powerless by comparison. I couldn’t even move out without him cosigning my lease. I couldn’t even get away when he didn’t want me anymore.
I held on to this marriage for SO LONG because I believed in his goodness and he gave me just enough false hope to keep me hooked. He insisted he was trying, if only I were better. I thought if I was humble & corrected myself, love would eventually win out.
He was actually just cheating on me.
I have never dragged any friend or ex online for the sake of it. But my public figure husband cheated on me with another public figure, publicly, while fans cheered them on thinking it was fiction.
I think a public conclusion is appropriate.
Any event I go to, people talk to me about Jared. Innocuous stuff about how they’re fans of him too, or whatever.
Dealing with that while being abused by him was excruciating. I needed to tell people what happened to escape this.
He feels entitled to silence me. He thinks it’s his right to keep his infidelity a secret, as though his reputation outweighs my trauma.
But this is my story too. This is what I lived through. I don’t need anyone’s permission to share my own experience.
Tbh I don’t even want people to hate Jared. That’s not the point. I don’t hate him. I think he needs help and I hope he gets it.
My story and pain are still valid, and being able to finally share this after a year of suppressing it is the most liberating experience I’ve ever had
I would never, ever take him back though. I can’t be a part of his healing and we’re better off separate. I still hope he recovers for his own sake.
Anyway I’ve spent the last year working on my own mental health and making fairy houses. I’ve been focused in my goals. I just moved out into my own place. I want nothing more in life but to escape my cheating husband and the reach of his social influence.
I tweeted something a while back along the lines of, “all I can do is keep living with integrity and the right people will see it”
This is what I meant. I was powerless to change Jared, so I worked on myself. I leveled up.
I’m not a fan of cancel culture. Of course you should follow the people you like and ignore the ones you don’t. But I also believe people are redeemable, if they want to be and work for it.
During these last few months I was made to feel like I was tainted and unforgivable. That’s one of the worst feelings in the world. I do not wish that on anyone, not even the people who hurt me.
I know Jared has been hurting for a long time in ways I don’t fully understand. I still empathize with him. He was my best friend for 7 years. I want to be the type of person who can still draw on compassion in spite of their own pain. I’m still working on that, but I want it.
That said, I can only speak for myself. Draw your own conclusions, sure, and feel your feelings. Your response is valid too.
My point here is really just that I am not trying to incite hate towards Jared. I don’t hate him. I would prefer to see him get help and heal.
I would never, ever take him back though. I can’t be a part of his healing and we’re better off separate. I still hope he recovers for his own sake.
