Parent with overly protective tendencies think that they are helping their child. Their goal is to protect their child, but it goes to the extreme.
This type of behavior can end up harming their child’s development when one or more of these behaviors is present.
There are a variety of effects of overprotective parenting. It is often dependent on the methods the parent utilizes and the extent of the overprotective behavior.
For example, let’s look at a child named Sally who is 13. She is a child who is overly managed by her parents and is not allowed to go to sleepovers or even go to another friend’s home. Her parents are worried about stranger danger and what can happen if they are not with their child.
Sally is allowed to have friends at her home, but her parents are always watching the kids. Whenever Sally and her friends begin to disagree, the argument is squelched before the children can even begin to work things out between themselves because Sally’s parents will intervene and solve the problem.
Sally is never alone with friends outside of school because her parents are always present. The presence of her parents in her socialization is hindering her development.
She doesn’t know how to work out disagreements between her peers because she has never been allowed the opportunity to even try. Her social skills are lacking because parents intervene to direct her behavior while she is with her friends.
There are other effects of overprotective parenting below:
1. Lack of self-esteem development
If children are not allowed to try things on their own, they cannot build self-confidence and self-esteem.
2. Lack of autonomy
If a child is always accustomed to having a parent around and supervising their behavior, they can become dependent on the decision making of their parents because they are never allowed to be alone or do things alone.
3. Anxiety
A child who is never allowed to try to do things on their own can become anxious when they are finally allowed to try things out on their own. They worry about making mistakes or failing because they have continually had a parent to help them avoid mistakes and failure.
4. People-pleasing tendencies
Children who have overprotective parents who constantly direct their children’s behavior end up seeking the approval of those in their life. These children will grow up accustomed to someone always telling them what the “right behavior” looks like.
If they don’t have that praise or comfort of someone saying they did things right, they can become anxious or depressed. They become people-pleasers who seek the appraisal of others.
5. Risky behavior
When children are raised in an overly protective home, they often engage in risky behavior when the reigns are lifted. They haven’t experienced the failures associated with low-risk situations at a younger age because of their overly protective parents.
What to do if you are an overprotective parent
If after reading this content you feel that you may be an overprotective parent, there is hope. You can change.
It begins with loosening the reigns of control over your child in a calculated and reasonable manner. Allowing for low-risk behaviors and the consequences involved can help your child become more independent.
There is definitely a balance to protective versus overprotective parenting. Allowing activities and exposure to experiences that are low-risk is a good way to start.
For example, allowing your child to play on age-appropriate playground equipment (without following them) is a good first step. They will experience some bumps and bruises, but this is a part of normal development and learning about consequences.
